Tuesday, June 12, 2007

Friends, Frenemies, Foes, Faux

With My Boy being gone last year I had my first experience of people really not giving a damn if your longterm boyfriend packs up and goes to Africa. Some of it I chalked up to preoccupation with other things, such as weddings, and just personal lives in general. However, this year, with the love of my life being gone for an even longer period of time, it's shocking to see how people lack sentiment. It's not as if I need a crying partner every night, but just an inquiry to how his travels are going and how maybe I am facing each day, would be really nice. I know that if the roles were reversed I would try to extend an ear, an evening, or something just to let my friends know I care. I am naturally not a self-absorbed person (yes, tooting my own horn) and I forget that sometimes others really are-they do not stop and think about the world around them and what's affecting their family and friends.

On the flip side of this matter, some friends have been overwhelmingly lovely, and I hope they know that I will and would extend myself to them in their times of need. I think having a friendship is such a simple idea, but the maintenance required really reveals who is in it for the long haul, and I am so thankful to have them in my life.

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